[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 2 years ago (0 children), [–]ORPHH 1 point2 points3 points 2 years ago (0 children). However, after about a year of keeping at it I had gone from 210 Lb. And here I have to admit that I am undoubtedly judging their books by their covers, but I have yet to find the exception to the rule. Mar 19, 2018, 09:52 EDT. You don't have to go as deep as Scarlett Johansson's voice, but her voice might be more attractive to most men than, say, Kim Kardashian's voice. The problem for Nice Guys is their niceness isn’t sincere. For example, you say that you "can't speak" and experience inability to communicate normally when attractive men are around. I agree with the old Southern saying that “there is a lid for every pot.” ... Vestus virum reddit. When I was less mature it was because I was too wrapped up in my own insecurities and was afraid she wasn't really as into me as she acted. Welcome to the life of a wallflower. [–]drewisbeast567 1 point2 points3 points 2 years ago (4 children). Don’t worry though, there’s a light at the end of this tunnel. elena October 17, 2018, 1:18 pm. These comments will be removed and you can and will be removed for the subreddit. (55.8 Kg). It is a safe place to be where you don’t have to face other people, hold a conversation, or face rejection. No. I don’t think anyone here is gonna be able to change you’re mind about your self image. This is so depressing. Oh, but not for you. This is in no way me claiming to be super attractive - I’m average, but I know I dress nicely and am good with hair/makeup so pull myself together reasonably well. or Create Personality Quiz. That kind of desperation is not attractive. There's nothing wrong with it, however, being like that make guys more reluctant to date you. The filter has a mind of its own. If you're afraid of getting hit by #metoo, there's nothing you can do. Hmm, the more you know, right? Of course, none of the guys are going to find you all that attractive either. Men don’t want to make you feel uncomfortable. Make it easy. If youâve noticed some or all of these qualities in yourself donât worry, you can learn to turn them around and become the guy women find attractive. But of course, don't forget about being tactful. But, I still have to be able to have the ability to want to kiss you and I … I was suffering from horrible anxiety and barely left my room, but I still expected a guy to fall into my lap and constantly wondered if I was completely unfuckable or hideous. I've recently lost my significant other because she left me, and now i miss her so much, but she's with another person. Quiz: How Attractive Are You? [–]LovelyPositivity 4 points5 points6 points 2 years ago (0 children), Not OP but just want to say this is awesome and so are you, buddy! no doubt about it. Please do not offer or ask for any financial donations. If you are removed for being too harsh in posts and you believe it was done unfairly, please message the mods. 2. noone will ever look at me and think "wow she is cute" or "wow she is pretty". Spending time with someone who is always a sad sock becomes draining over time, and eventually they pull away so that they can spend time with other, more positive individuals. I'm a 5'2" heterosexual woman and have no problem dating short men. Self confidence is extremely attractive. if a man friendzones you, it's because of your looks. We also do not allow submissions posted simply to be funny. Guys think youâre out of their league. Reply; 1.2.1. lol. Don’t miss that opportunity. The people who claim you shouldn't approach in [situation] are a tiny but vocal minority. Furthermore, each man ⦠noone does. I dunno what to do for title but 21M am sad details within, My career has just been ruined due to lockdown, could someone please offer empathy/encouragements/advice on dealing with feelings, but not solutions for the actual situation please, It's so sad I'm only 20 and all I think is about death. i feel like you only find love if you're pretty. To learn more about how to flirt without being sleazy , get more dates, develop confident body language, and overcome your approach anxiety in just 5 days, check out The Art of Charm Bootcamp. If you will allow me to make an educated guess, it is that men do find you attractive! Rendered by PID 20040 on r2-app-02b3e9ac3f5a31c62 at 2021-01-09 01:29:29.603524+00:00 running d8cca48 country code: GB. People decided for themselves whether they wanted to add a comment to the Reddit thread. It is something like this : Girl: Hi Me: Hey, How are you doinâ ? everyone either treats me like i'm a piece of shit, or like i don't exist. ... Those blessed with naturally plump lips … Men don't want to go in for a kiss and come out looking like they just joined the circus. Really. I love Matthew Hussey. You're better off ignoring it entirely and just do your best to be a decent person. Guys don’t like rejection and if they ask a girl out and she says no, it often takes months before he’ll try again! More Attractive Quizzes. Quit waiting on the guys in your world to sort themselves out. Server: irc.freenode.net Room: #reddit-mmfb. Have you lost a loved one? During high school, Iâd had a terrible crush on a good-looking guy who turned out to be such a jerk that by our senior year, he was flat-out hideous to me, physically and otherwise. i feel so lonely. I can't up upvote enough. You don't have to have your whole life figured out, but guys don't want to be with someone who is lacking any sort of purpose or direction. If you’re surrounded by guy friends, GWWTAY. The Allure of Attractive Men. Men really appreciate a skilled and committed lover. I was a lot like you in highschool, except guys who knew I liked them used me to get answers on tests and shit like that. Don't think you can't be the one who aproches them, that may be all you need to do, I am friends with all the girls (and a few of them are telling me what to write right now), so I've seen this before, one of my friend had not been able to do this and I talked to her and tried to get her out of her shell, and she now has a boyfriend, just try to talk to them, they won't bite (they may bite) Almost puke at the thought of being with a woman. Drawing in their eyebrows.’ Look love, thanks to the great over-plucking massacre of 1999, most of … Almost every guy rates a girl he meets, either subconsciously or consciously. Yeah, I learned that those people would never be right for me but it leave it's mark on a man regardless. In todayâs modern world, however, the general point of view that men find women with long hair more attractive than those with short hair may still prevail. Many people have some great stories to tell about some not-so-great occurrences in their lives. For me it's very much that I've been trained that women don't want to be approached at work, at the gym, waiting for the bus, etc. I’ve been single for a year and only been asked on two dates - both I had to semi initiate...I’m starting to get resentful about the lack of proper attention I receive. ... asking you what, in your opinion, is your hottest feature? If a woman is attracted to you, you can approach her while she's on the toilet and she'll be receptive. You probably think it's absurd every time you hear some guy whining about how girls only want muscly rich guys with perfect chins and six-pack abs. They love it when you love sex and when you are passionate about it as much as they are. 2 years ago. Her weight problems, on the other hand, may also impact her fertility; For this reason, most guys don’t usually go for women who have a larger waist-to-hips ratio. that was in middle/high school of course. Do an informal interview with a friend or mentor who will lovingly tell you some of the good things you bring to the table and some of the areas where you need to change. Remember, foundation is supposed to be invisible to others and blend in with your skin. Just participate in what you like and make an effort to talk to the other participants, especially the guys. When I was more mature it was because I genuinely thought we didn't have much of an emotional bond. I'm 27 years old and now sober for the first time in 12 years. i just want someone to be with me. For me, I approach girls semi frequently, I’m not scared of rejection, but if they haven’t given me some sign that they’re ok with me walking over to them you can forget it. [–]SirMustache007 1 point2 points3 points 2 years ago* (0 children). It's hard but it works. Women are often thought of as picky, especially where men ⦠you get weird looks, noone takes you seriously, girls don't want to be friends with you, instead they bully you and guys don't wanna to talk to you. Thankfully, women definitely donât reject good men in favor of bad men. now guys don't talk to me at all. Others might even think that you are tired of getting too much attention. But I'm sure you knew that- you just didn't want to. Men don't want to go in for a kiss and come out looking like they just joined the circus. So your looks absolutely aren’t the problem. WHY?! Hmm, the more you know, right? What people don't like is when you're being bothersome. I accepted one friend request of an unknown girl and we had a conversation. Then I found out ghosting is usually what happens after the cute girl says yes or we just sort of talk off and on for months/years while I occasionally ask "are you free?" Itâs done by getting rid of all the bullshit beliefs and habits you have that have been holding you back. noone will ever love me or find me attractive (self.MMFB), submitted 2 years ago * by mayflowerpenguin. It may be hard to hear, but men are noticing that stuff anyway. Sure, guys message me on Instagram all the time, but when it comes to a real life scenario, I rarely get approached, unless it’s by really cocky/overly confident guys (which I’m not interested in). Try just being friends and getting to know them first and if you guys click then make that approach happen. I started to look for other qualities IF the attraction is at least a 6. But I didn't do anything with my life. So, pick yourself up off of the fucking floor and get some help. This means that to the degree you can, get rid of problems with your teeth, skin, odor, substance issues (believe me – finding out that someone is a smoker the first time you kiss them is bad to experience). If you don’t flash a smile in a guy’s way, GWWTAY. i don't have friends and my family hates me. Una likes them latino and Dos and I like them white. Don't look for guys in bars, if you are intelligent then you probably aren't what most guys on a night out are looking for. im always alone. ... A self-confident person who doesn’t have complexes and considers themselves attractive and successful appreciates the same qualities in other people. Find your group chat here >> start new discussion reply. it's the sad truth. C. No, they prefer my friends. but that doesnt change the fact that i am ugly and men want women that are pretty.. i don't believe that people my age focus on character. REDDIT and the ALIEN Logo are registered trademarks of reddit inc. π Rendered by PID 20040 on r2-app-02b3e9ac3f5a31c62 at 2021-01-09 01:29:29.603524+00:00 running d8cca48 country code: GB. Coming from a former ugly person, it gets better, I promise. I am attracted to white and Asian guys but I feel like white guys don't find me attractive. Looking through your post history, you seem to suffer from some sort of depression or other mental health issues. men won't want me unless im attractive. too ugly for sex. Things should then work out for you. I am attracted to white and Asian guys but I feel like white guys don't find me attractive. Conversely, a 20-year-old woman will be most attracted to a 23-year-old-man ⦠Nobody likes me”…. i'd to it. You know what I did? There are women today who look a lot better and younger with the right short haircut. Indeed, it is not just guys on the internet who rate girls â it is also guys whom you know in real life. too ugly. Dear Ugly, Fat Feminists:I'm sorry men don't find you attractive. Since most girls have, we feel like we can make a pretty safe bet that you have to! 8 Questions | By JasmineB98 | Last updated: Nov 6, 2020 | Total Attempts: 5118 . That said, it is possible that you are the hawt girl, and not know it. I'm still insecure, still don't regard myself as attractive, and still feel like an outcast in most social situations. Like you've internalized their reactions as them losing interest in you, perhaps what's going on is more complicated. I've noticed that men don't seem to pay attention to me anymore while out in bars and all. A 2013 study by researchers in Finland, South Africa, the … I just get so jealous and sad because some women can go out to a simple place such as the grocery store or gas station and have guys ask for their number but that never happens to me. What is it that you are doing wrong? too ugly for a committed relationship. There are women out there who will literally pick a random stranger they never even met and make up an accusation. I am fundamentally unattractive to women, so please don’t tell me that dating is a numbers game, to gain confidence, or to put myself … Here are some of the many reasons why good guys get rejected by women: 1. it will help me know those i should be making an effort for. Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcuts. New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast, A subreddit to discuss and vent about the dating process and learn from the experiences of others, Press J to jump to the feed. It's made me a lot more cautious about who I choose to interact with both IRL and online. Because it's much easier to build a serious relationship with an honest person and there is no risk that they will lie to you. I guess I must be intimidating or something because white guys just don't approach me. I love them! So, if you want to know whether guys think youâre a 0 or a 10, take this quiz and weâll let you know! but noone wants me. It sounds that you are strong and smart, but short-tempered and improper. im not worth anything. Do Guys Find Me Attractive? then i would be a little less ugly than i currently am. For example, a dance class or a recreational sports team. It's more attractive to look at and feels nicer to touch when it's free of gels or sticky products. Una likes them latino and Dos and I like them white. It's the 21st century. But, you ask an important question, âWhat am I doing wrong?â You are aware that you are doing something to discourage men from meeting, dating and becoming intimately involved. 8 Questions | By JasmineB98 | Last updated: Nov 6, 2020 | Total Attempts: 5118 . i wish i had money for a nose job. I felt horrible about it.). That's the ONLY way you'll know for certain. So, the very first thing you need to do is: Don’t Look Sick, and Don’t Smell Sick. By this we mean a specific feature of yours that others may find attractive, such as your long legs or your plump lips. Many attractive women in their 20s reject all but the most attractive and powerful men Many of those rejected men go on to become more attractive and powerful in their 30s and 40s When those women turn 30, they become less marketable and are surprised to learn that the top men don’t want them—because they’re now chasing the young women they used to be Men don’t just go around and tell every woman what a great lover she is. and then they stop talking to me. Because that’s a big part of what her unconscious evaluation of your fitness for reproduction is about. now guys don't talk to me at all. My friends get hit on and I actually see guys checking them out, but never happens to me. when i used to be in high school, there were always these pretty girls, long blonde hair, blue eyes, perfect face.. and of course every guy was running after them. that was in middle/high school of course. Looking pretty is not enough. I feel confident to walk away from situations and men that don’t serve me, and to give men feedback if they do something I don’t like. So it could be a lot of things. So...a grocer approached me last week and I couldn't tell if he was making small talk as part of his job or if it was sincere flirting, but I ended up panicking and "running". Men donât just go around and tell every woman what a great lover she is. too ugly to be a friend. Wow, you are 27 years old and are convinced that men do not find you attractive. (Accurate) Quiz: How Attractive Are You? This weekend I went clubbing with my Asian (who I shall refer as to Una) friend and half Asian/half latina (Dos) friend. I go for the girls who make that first interaction easy. i hate looking in the mirror. I realize that we can’t always have it all and finally, I am okay with that. In fact, a lot of women have negative experiences when it comes to sexual feedback. It's very likely there are some number of guys in the world who think your nose is the hottest thing since Victoria Secret underwear, but there are probably 100 times that number who don't even realize it's any different and who don't understand why you feel bad about it. i wish i could be pretty. And I'm afraid the answer is to exit your comfort zone and go speak to people. And, I don’t find younger men mentally attractive. ... That's great and you absolutely have to make … * Let me clarify - I find them pleasing to the eye, and every so often quite tempting, but I don't find myself actually attracted to them. then even if you are very attractive, most guys won’t bother with you. That’s why, if a person who you consider to be a good … Because strong women intimidate boys, and excite men, and that’s what I’m after. Be Supportive If what you're saying is having a negative impact on someone seeking support, your comments may be removed, and you may be banned. Well, guys are just as complicated. Most people may not ⦠It may be helpful to talk to a professional who is good at words and stuff to help you end it. … I feel confident to assert my boundaries in my career, and I donât need a guy to constantly bolster my self-confidence as I know Iâm an attractive woman. When I was in high school and college I barely noticed the blonde-haired, blue-eyed girls. It's hard to know if you're a guy-magnet or not. Until then, happy hunting. In these places, unwanted advances can be considered harassment. Just because no one whistles at you as you cross a street, doesn't mean some other women do not enjoy it. Plenty of men who I personally didnât find attractive (we all have our âtypesâ) spoke to me and I was happy to chat back, because one never knows. Guys don't seem to find me attractive once they get to know me? It wasn't easy; I don't have great self-discipline. if a man friendzones you, it's because of your looks. i hate myself so much. Do Guys Find Me Attractive? I agree with some of the principles but there’s a lot of assumptions and generalisations made - makes it hard to fully support him. The girls that guys find attractive are the girls that think they themselves are attractive. ... nobody my age seems to find me attractive/approaches me... What am I doing wrong? Actively try and find solutions to your problems rather than consulting internet strangers for pity points. 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